Are You Suffering from
‘Lonely Pillow Syndrome’?
~ or ~
I’ve Tried Everything… So Why Am I Sleeping ALONE?
by P.K. Odle, The Feng Shui Advantage
Are you or one of your best friends one of the millions of singles who just can’t seem to connect with the special someone? Does your spouse or partner seldom share the bed with you, because of travel or opposing schedules? Have you tried every dating / relationship tip from magazines, books and well meaning friends to no avail?
Have you ever wondered if there is an unseen force that’s preventing you from sharing your bed with that special someone? Well stop wondering, because there absolutely is! From the moment of your birth you connect with the magnetics of Earth in such a unique way that you have several ‘Personal Feng Shui Directions.’ Some of your Personal Directions are very supportive, but a few will sabotage your efforts without you even being aware of their influence on your daily life.
Your ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction can keep you from having a long-term intimate love relationship or cause you to sleep separately from your partner the majority of the time. When you know the 15° of your ‘Lonely Pillow’ you can avoid activating or triggering its negative influences. Of course, if you are already married or involved you’ll want to avoid triggering either one of your ‘Lonely Pillow’ directions.
In some instances, there might be a reason you want to sleep alone. Then, of course, you can choose to activate your ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction. For instance, when you’re having a hard time breaking off a relationship that you want to end. You could activate your child’s ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction to encourage them to focus on their education instead of dating and marriage. Just don’t let them find out what you’re up to.
Because of its personal nature, the influence of your ‘Lonely Pillow’ relates primarily to your residence. Like all your other personal Feng Shui directions, your ‘Lonely Pillow’ can be activated by the Sitting direction of your home or the exact location of its entrances and windows from the center of the whole house. When you have an entrance or window in your ‘Lonely Pillow,’ you must STOP using that door or window completely to avoid the ‘Lonely Pillow Syndrome.’ If that isn’t possible, keep the door / window closed as much as possible to lessen the affects.
The Sitting side of your house is the private, darker and heavier side of your house, which is opposite the formal, lighter and more open Facing side. Unfortunately, if your house is Sitting-in your ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction… it’s the one situation where the only remedy is to move to a house that’s oriented in another direction. Several of my clients over the years have had this problem and were relieved to discover an outside influence was keeping them single… and that they could escape its influence by moving to a different residence. For instance, one client spends five nights a week at his live-in job, while his wife and three small children stay in their condo, which is in his ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction.
Since this is the most intimate of all your Personal Directions, it can also be triggered if your BEDROOM door or window is within the precise 15° section of your ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction from the exact center of your bedroom or bedroom suite with private bath. In most cases, it’s easy to stop using a window to avoid the ‘Lonely Pillow Syndrome.’ However, if your bedroom door is causing the problem, you’ll need to switch to another bedroom or move the door to your bedroom out of your ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction.
As the name implies, sleeping with the top of your head toward the 15° of your ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction will also trigger the ‘Lonely Pillow Syndrome.’ No matter if this is one of your ‘Best Sleeping’ directions according to your basic 45° Trigram directions, you must move your bed to a different direction to avoid the activating your ‘Lonely Pillow.’ Many of my clients have simply moved their beds out of the direction of their ‘Lonely Pillow’ and began regularly dating again, after years of not dating at all.
The last way that triggers the ‘Lonely Pillow Syndrome’ is when you have a mirror within that precise 15° section from the exact center of your whole house or your bedroom. Large mirrors or mirrored closet doors are never recommended in the bedroom, because they reflect light and light is Yang, which means activity… so the reflected light stirs up the Qi and makes it difficult to have a restful night’s sleep. On top of that, the more mirrors you have in your bedroom, the greater the chance that one will activate your ‘Lonely Pillow’ or your partner’s.
If you find a mirror in your ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction, remove the mirror or cover the glass of the mirror so it’s no longer reflective. Over the years, my clients have come up with many creative ways to cover their mirrored closet doors. A client who’s an artist used water-based paints to paint a beautiful mural over her mirrored closet doors. Other clients used double-faced tape to attach rice paper, wallpaper or anything that complements their décor to cover their mirrors. One client even covered one side of her bathroom that was in her ‘Lonely Pillow’ direction with a rotating collection of her child’s artwork.
The 15° aspects of your ‘Personal Feng Shui Directions’ are the most highly guard secrets of the ancient science of Classical Feng Shui. Unfortunately, barely 5% of all Feng Shui consultants have the ability to calculate all 9 of your 15° Personal Directions. On top of that, the majority of those aren’t teaching their clients how to locate their Personal Directions anywhere they live or work. Needless to say, none of these secret ‘Personal Directions’ are included in any of the popular Feng Shui books.
Since 1998, I’ve taught over 1,500 clients how to manage their Personal Directions for their entire lifetime and I would be delighted to do the same for you. I realize it’s impossible for me to personally Feng Shui everyone’s home or office, so I’ve developed the ‘Lifetime Keys Personal Directions Self-Mastery Toolbox,’ which teaches you how to identify and manage ALL of your Personal Directions anywhere in the World. To learn more visit Personal Directions
© 2003 P.K. Odle. All rights reserved.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
P.K. Odle is a celebrated classical Yi Jing Feng Shui consultant and the Executive Director of the world-renowned American Feng Shui Institute®, where she has taught since 1998. She created The Feng Shui Advantage's "Lifetime Keys Personal Directions Self-Mastery Toolbox." To learn more about using the ancient Chinese science of Yi Jing Feng Shui to improve your Health, Relationships and Finances... through 16 weeks of FREE TIPS subscribe to her award-winning eNewsletter, The Feng Shui Advantage MONTHLY, at http://www.FengShuiAdvantage.com. The next issue could change your life!
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