How You Can Avoid 'Lonely Pillow Syndrome' Next Valentine's Day!
by P.K. Odle, The Feng Shui Advantage
Are you tired of spending Valentine's Day alone? Perhaps you're one of the millions of singles who just can't seem to connect with that special someone? Or you feel like you're single even though you're in a relationship, because you sleep alone most nights due to travel or opposing schedules? Have you tried all the dating/relationship tips from magazines, books and well-meaning friends to no avail?
You might be wondering if there's an unseen force that could be preventing you from sharing your bed with that special someone on a permanent basis. Well you can stop wondering, because there absolutely is!
At the moment of your birth you connect with Earth's magnetic field in such a way that you have several unique 'Feng Shui Personal Directions' which influence many aspects of your life. Barely 5% of Feng Shui professionals have the knowledge and experience to identify your 'Feng Shui Personal Directions,' so it’s not surprising if you’ve never heard of your unique relationship to planet Earth. However, these directions have been affecting your finances, health and relationships all your life. The exciting part is that once you know your combination of these directions you have the opportunity to activate their positive influences and neutralize their negative effects.
Because I've seen the huge impact these Personal Directions have on the lives of my clients, I make a point of showing them their unique directions during my Feng Shui consultations. For those who can’t have an on-site consultation, I created the 'Personal Directions Self-Mastery Toolbox' to teach them how to locate their directions anywhere in the world.
The 'Feng Shui Personal Direction' that keeps you from having a long-term intimate love relationship, or causes you to sleep separately from your partner the majority of the time, is called your ‘LONELY PILLOW’ direction. The name came from ancient-times when in China those who were not married were expected to sleep alone. When you know where your 15° 'Lonely Pillow' direction is, you can avoid its affect. You can also use it for when you want to sleep alone, such as when you're having a hard time breaking off a relationship. Of course, if you’re already married or involved and would like to remain so… you’ll want to avoid triggering either your partner’s or your 'Lonely Pillow' direction.
Because of its personal nature, the influence of your 'Lonely Pillow' relates primarily to your residence. Like all your other 'Feng Shui Personal Directions,' your 'Lonely Pillow' direction can be activated by the Sitting direction of your home or the exact location of its entrances and windows from the magnetic center of your whole house/unit. When you have an entrance or window in your 'Lonely Pillow' direction, you must prevent air currents from entering through that door or window to avoid suffering from ‘Lonely Pillow Syndrome.’
The Sitting side of your house is the private, darker and heavier side of your house, which is opposite the formal, lighter and more open Facing side. Unfortunately, if your house is sitting toward your 'Lonely Pillow' direction, the only remedy is to move to a house that’s oriented in another direction. Several of my clients over the years have had this problem and were actually relieved to discover an outside influence was keeping them single… and that they could escape its influence by moving to a different residence.
Your 'Lonely Pillow' direction is determined not only by your date of birth, but also by your gender. Therefore, males and females born in the same year will have different 'Lonely Pillow' directions. One of my client's work schedule kept him away from home and his family 5 nights a week because their condo was sitting in his 'Lonely Pillow' direction. After learning how to use the Feng Shui Advantage 'Personal Directions' birth-charts I provided them, they made sure their next home wasn’t sitting in either of his or his wife’s 'Lonely Pillow' directions.
Since your 'Lonely Pillow' direction is one of the most intimate of all your 'Personal Directions,' it can also be triggered if your BEDROOM door or windows are in your 'Lonely Pillow' direction from the center of your whole house or the center of your bedroom (or bedroom suite including your private bath and closets). In most cases, it’s easy to stop allowing air currents to come through a window to avoid ‘Lonely Pillow Syndrome.’ However, if your bedroom door is causing the problem, you’ll need to switch to another bedroom or move the entrance to your bedroom out of your 'Lonely Pillow' direction. When I’m advising on the design of new homes for my clients, the location of both the bedroom door and beds are a critical factor.
When your bed is located in your 'Lonely Pillow' direction, it will also interfere with your love-life. In this case, you must move your bed out of your 'Lonely Pillow' section to avoid sleeping alone. If that’s impossible, then locate the bed so at least your body isn’t in your 'Lonely Pillow' section and so the smallest portion of your bed possible is in your 'Lonely Pillow' section. On that note, it’s OK if your mate is sleeping on the portion of the bed that happens to be in your ‘Lonely Pillow,’ as long as their 'Lonely Pillow' direction is different from yours.
Another thing that can split up a relationship is when your bed is bisected by energy grid lines from head-to-toe between your two pillows. As I was helping a client in Louisiana move their bed into one section of their grid, she said "Ever since we’ve lived here, my husband and I have said it’s like were sleeping in the same bed in different rooms." That's the best way I’ve ever heard it described. If you find your bed location causes your pillows to be bisected, move your bed so that it’s entirely in one section of the grid… even if it’s not in one of your supportive sleeping directions. To determine the location of your energy grid lines in your home you'll need an accurate floor plan draw to scale. First draw 2 lines that divide the interior width by 3 and then draw 2 lines to divide the depth by 3. Those are your energy grid lines, which create a tic-tac-toe type grid with 9 sections. Your supportive sleeping directions and how to locate your precise Personal Directions are explained in detail during an on-site consultation and in the Self-Mastery Toolbox.
An 'Exposed Beam' separating two people in a bed causes the same problems as energy grid lines dividing between you and your loved one. For more detailed advice regarding health related Feng Shui Mistakes to Avoid in the Bedroom, click on the blue title to read that article in my free on-line article library.
Another way you could inadvertently be triggering 'Lonely Pillow Syndrome' is by hanging or having a mirror within your 'Lonely Pillow' section of your whole house or your bedroom. Large mirrors, such as mirrored closet doors, are never recommended in the bedroom, because they reflect light and light is Yang, which means activity. Therefore, the reflected light causes the energy in your bedroom to be more active, which makes it difficult for you to have a restful night’s sleep. On top of that, the more mirrors you have in your bedroom, the greater the chance that one will activate your 'Lonely Pillow' or your partner’s 'Lonely Pillow' direction.
If by chance you find a mirror in your 'Lonely Pillow' direction, remove the mirror or cover the glass of the mirror so it’s no longer reflective. Over the years, my clients have come up with many creative ways to cover mirrors in the 'Lonely Pillow' sections of their homes. The easiest way to cover a mirror is with window privacy film to make the mirrors appear as frosted or stained glass that complements your décor. Be sure to use the static version so the film is just as easy to remove as it is to install. One of my more creative clients used water-based paints to create a beautiful mural over the mirrored closet doors in the bedroom of her rented apartment. In many instances my clients’ bathroom mirrors have been in their 'Lonely Pillow' directions, in which case they have opted to put their ‘Vision Board’ (images of what they want to attract into their lives) over that part of their bathroom mirror using double-faced tape.
As the name implies, sleeping with the top of your head pointing toward your 'Lonely Pillow' direction will certainly keep you sleeping alone. Even if your 'Lonely Pillow' direction is part of your 'Best Sleeping' directions; you must move your bed to a different direction to avoid activating your 'Lonely Pillow' direction. Many of my clients have simply moved their headboards away from the direction of their 'Lonely Pillow' and happily begun dating again, even after years of not dating at all. Several have already met and married that special someone after eliminating the affects of their 'Lonely Pillow' directions with the help of their ‘Peach Blossom Vase. In the Chinese community 'Peach Blossom' refers to sociability, flirtation and romance. Using your 'Peach Blossom' vase correctly will bring you more potential romantic partners to choose from.
To have good results using your 'Peach Blossom' vase you'll need:
A vase of your specific color…
Your specific color of fresh CUT FLOWERS in…
Fresh WATER… (dirty water brings disastrous relationships)
Place your 'Peach Blossom Vase' full of fresh cut flowers and clean water in your 'Peach Blossom' Direction from the center of your bedroom or whole house if you live alone.
Plus… be sure there’s nothing triggering your 'Lonely Pillow' direction.
A word of caution… Using your 'Peach Blossom' (romance) vase does NOT guarantee quality, just more quantity to choose from. You still need to use discretion and decide for yourself who you want to spend time with and/or commit to. Also, your Romance Vase is only for attracting more potential romantic partners to choose from. It's not for stimulating the romance in your existing relationship. However, you can place your headboard toward your ‘Peach Blossom’ direction to stimulate romance in your existing relationship.
I was surprised how excited a Chinese client became when I began to tell her how to use her personal ‘Peach Blossom’ vase during her consultation. It seems her Grandmother who lives in China had encouraged her to have a Feng Shui consultation and instructed her to find a Feng Shui consultant that could tell her "how to use the Peach Blossom Vase Trick." I doubt that her Grandmother knew how rare such a consultant would be, because….
Your 'Feng Shui Personal Directions,' including your Lonely Pillow and Peach Blossom Vase are the most highly guarded secrets of the ancient science of Classical Feng Shui. As I said before, barely 5% of all Feng Shui consultants have the ability to calculate all 9 of your 'Personal Directions'. Needless to say, you won't find all of these secret 'Feng Shui Personal Directions' in the currently popular do-it-yourself Feng Shui books. That’s why I created The Feng Shui Advantage's 'Personal Directions Self-Mastery Toolbox' to offer this information separately from an on-site consultation.
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